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Discussion: Are Roadblocks As Bad As They Seem?

By: Chiara Noble

January 6, 2023

Why does it seem that the closer you get to accomplishing a task or goal, the further in the distance it becomes? Have you ever sat down to make a “to do” list, only to find that it is impossible to complete more than a few of the items you have listed? Have you ever come up with an idea, but as you sat down to plan and execute, you struggled to figure out where to begin? Or what about something as simple as making a grocery list? After checking the cupboards, the refrigerator, and the pantry, you get to the store and realize you forgot your list? So you try your hardest to remember all the things you had written, but it’s virtually impossible to not forget something. Some would call this a roadblock.

A roadblock is defined as:

A barricade or obstruction across a road set up to prevent the escape or passage, as of a fugitive or enemy troops; An obstruction in a road, as fallen rocks or trees; Sometimes, such as a situation or condition, that prevents further progress toward an accomplishment.

One might look at the scenarios above with discontentment and panic, trying to figure out how they can rush through and get everything done. Or hurry back home fighting traffic and burning extra gas to retrieve the list that they left behind. Where another might say to themselves, “it’s alright, tomorrow is another day.” They may pause on the idea, or enlist the help of a partner or teammate to help them brainstorm ways to get up and running. They may even decide to continue their shopping from memory, and that whatever they left behind can be picked up tomorrow. Roadblocks are often temporary.

At the time, it may seem as if there is no way around it, and it’s very easy to become discouraged and want to throw in the towel. As a matter of fact, it’s much easier to do so. But what about looking at the glass as half full instead of half empty? What happens then? Many things are often a matter of perception. And perception is some people’s reality. Think about some roadblocks from the year 2022 that you have gotten past. I’m sure something came to mind immediately, while other things you may have to give some careful thought to. But that first thing that came to mind. Be honest. When it first happened or even in the midst of it; everything seemed so challenging, so heavy, so impossible to overcome, but you did it. You made it. You survived it.

I am a firm believer that roadblocks occur for a reason, and they are not always bad. Some may be to protect us from something bad happening. Some may to keep us from making a terrible decision. Other may be to delay us or slow us down when we are moving too fast. It took me some time to get to the place of understanding as it relates to roadblocks. Not that I care for them at all. But when you come to a roadblock, before you panic or become upset that things aren’t going your way, take a moment (or a few) to reflect on the why.

We can use roadblocks as a time of self-reflection to think and meditate on your current situation. Did you think this through completely? Is this the best decision to be made right now? What might be the long-term effects of going through with it be? What’s the best or worst that can happen? Who might this affect in a positive or negative way? Is it time to take a pause or retreat? Is there something that you should learn from this, or something you might be missing?

These are just a few things to think about the next time you find yourself in a roadblock situation. Jot down the answers to these questions. Read and re-read them as often as you need to. You may find answers there. As you navigate through this new month and throughout this new year, and you come upon roadblocks, you may discover they aren’t as bad as they seem. Be kind to yourself and one another

Thank you for joining me for Friday at Sundown. Remember… Just Breathe!

About the Writer:

Chiara A. Noble: Is a visionary, a woman of many talents who wears many hats. She is an ordained Reverend, wife, mother, daughter, sister. A published author and the co-host of Victory Talk, a virtual talk show centered around helping people to grow, speak and live a victorious life. She is a certified mental health advocate and life coach. She has faced many trials/tribulations but lives by the saying “storms make trees take deeper roots.”



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