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Discussion: Decisions… To Destiny or Away from Destiny!

Belinda M. Lane

December 9, 2022

Like many people I have thought, If I could turn back the hands of time. If I could do life over again, what would my world look like? Every decision we make, even the minor ones, opens a door in our world. A decision stemming from what we believe is felt to be the right choice. From the choice, we determine the path we need to select, something we desire to go on. Where we are in living? Whether a personal or influenced choice. To step away from a particular place or condition or to continue the current path is a choice.

What we do when something doesn’t turn out is blame someone/others for where we are in life. Consider if you will, of when someone leaves home, needing to go out on their own, finally. Only to stare backward ten (10) or twenty (20) years, still seeking the better life we assumed to have on our own. What was our focal point in our decision making? What has our choices cost us as we look back or go forward? Is regret a place we maintain or are we still blaming someone for why we can’t proceed forward?

What decision (s) have you made knowing it brought you into your destiny or moved you away from it? People have thrown their life away because of the knocks they have taken along the way. I have pointed out in separate discussions; getting money (millionaires and billionaires) doesn’t mean the individual is walking in their true destiny. The suicides in this community of wealth have showed this to be true.

Thinking as we advance towards the New Year, what are we seeing? We have to establish current decisions with information we never imagined, apart from our life’s equation. For many, our country is still swaying and shaking, tossing us from side to side. It is like we have been in a small boat during a dangerous storm. Everyone, for a period, was in the same boat. Yet there are those surviving with experiences they received along life’s pathway. Others frantically are struggling not to drown. Understanding what has taken place in the past doesn’t matter now. Life over the recent months hasn’t allowed us any time to ponder in the past tense. We must concentrate on what’s current and future of how we will strengthen our lives as we rebuild.

Being informed while looking forward has become a mandate; in order to proceed forward in wisdom. It’s vital we set aside the burdens we have been bearing. I recall when I had cataracts removed from my eyes and for two (2) weeks, the doctor’s instruction was not to pick up anything that weighed over five (5) pounds. It is a weight we don’t even consider as being heavy. But with this surgery, it could affect me substantially. As we go forward, it’s essential not to pick up and carry certain amounts of weight, because it will influence your vision. My ophthalmologist told me she could look into my eyes and see I wasn’t drinking enough water. She pointed out how water keeps your eyes hydrated and flushes out toxins. WOW! Water will wash away the residue of irritations of the eyes, which keep us from seeing clearly.

I believe time has propelled many to understand what is past is absolutely past. Standing in the present-day looking forward, many saw they gained survival techniques. With a sigh of relief, we must live more intentionally. Time has been a “Forward March” for the entire world. Yet, there are still too many champions sleeping with their past!

Thank you for joining me for Friday at Sundown. Remember… Just Breathe!


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