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Discussion: “I’m More Than What You See,”I am a Conqueror!

Writer: Jacqueline B. ~Jackie “Lady J” Miller

August 19, 2022

Have you ever wondered if that reflection you see daily in the mirror is your actual image? When you think about it, the concept is confusing isn’t it? Try this, put on your favorite t-shirt and go to the mirror. Did you notice the graphics on your t-shirt are in a reversed pattern? The reflection you see is not the same as what you see when you are looking directly at the shirt.

It means that it’s not your actual image, it’s your flipped image. But how do others see your t-shirt or you for that matter? Same concept applies to us. You too are so much more than what others see.

Let’s See What We See

I am not conceited, but I look in the mirror daily, do you? Not just to wash your face, brush your teeth or comb your hair. What do you see or should I say, ‘Who’ do you see? Do you see what or who “They” say you should see or be? Do you see what “they” can’t see? Come on, think about it… still can’t see who I’m talking about? Go look in the mirror again, look closely!

In my initial look, my eyes draw immediate attention as they have all my life, then my smile, and I catch a glimpse of my kinky hair, my brows. Then just like most of us, I picked apart what I like or don’t like about my body. Whether it’s about my wide nose, lips or hips my focus is on my physical likes or dislikes just like every other human on this earth. We are our worst critics and usually it’s because of what the world has imbedded in our psyche about how we should look or act.

There are countless articles, magazines, advertisements, and body shaming from society that can cause you to see your own-self in a negative light. Fostering low-self-esteem, suicidal thoughts leading to uncontrollable reactions. Picking out every flaw you fear is magnified by the reflection of the mirror and even creating some that don’t exist.

As I began to look past my reflection and meditate on what I really see. My thoughts go to the strong person that I’ve developed into after an emotional, mentally, and physically abusive marriage. I am reminded that the multiple nervous breakdowns I endured could have, but did not break me. In spite of the suicide attempts, I’m still standing and I’m smarter and wiser for it. I could see the resourceful confidence of a single mother. Who managed for years to raise 2 sons and a daughter, who in turn became respectful and have high regards for themselves as well as others.

No matter how much the world told and showed me, I was not worthy of love. God saw fit to heal me and send me someone who loves me as close to His love as I could possibly get on this earth.

I began to see the struggles that I’ve endured through the years and still survived. The brokenness from years and years of hurt and pain. At times from others, but mostly from myself because I allowed ME to be in the presence of those who had ill intentions for me. Not to mention the places and positions that were not meant for me in the first place.

I see the growth of realizing that every broken friendship or relationship was for a reason, a season or a purpose and the lessons I’d learned were life changing.

Do Others See You as You See Yourself

Regardless of whether others see you as you see yourself depends on how other people see themselves. When someone is in a good mood, having a really great day, they tend to see everything and everyone around them with positive eyes.

But when you have a bad day, you feel like everyone you come in contact with is plotting against you. You believe they are trying to manipulate you out of something or take advantage of you. So you’re snappy and on the defense. I recently preached a sermon called “Hurt People, Hurt People”. Unfortunately, when people are hurt they don’t/ can’t see the good, nice, positive, productive or growth in others because of what they are trying to live through. Changes in your lifestyle can affect the way you see yourself and others. Mood swings, lack of sleep, hormone imbalance, poor diet, and other mental, physical and financial life altering situations can have detrimental ramifications. This can be revealing of one's perception of oneself and others around them.

We have all been guilty of this at some point in our life’s journey, so no judgement here.

Perspective and Perception Is Your Reality (Can Change Your Reality)

Mirrors can evoke strong feelings in us. But they can also be incredibly powerful tools for changing our perspective and seeing parts of ourselves. Usually hidden as we look out into the world and as others look back at us.

Our desire to be seen and reflected is basic. As children, we learn to understand ourselves through the reflections of those around us, starting with our parents and siblings. In fact, I can recall my therapist in the past suggesting that face-to-face contact truly is necessary for our social and emotional development throughout life. In today’s society we spend more time alone and on our devices, so we miss out on this social reflection.

It’s through the mirror, we can come face-to-face with ourselves. That’s why it’s important to look regularly, to see the you that the world would rather you hid from.

Rarely do we look back at our reflection and at first thought see in ourselves what our Heavenly father sees in us.

But I look closer-deeper and I see the faithful, resilient, productive, gifted, kind-hearted, kingdom building, legacy leaving accomplisher. An amazing, and fearless woman of God that He has created in me… I am more than a Conqueror… You must believe also you are more than a Conqueror!

I believe that if you take a closer look in your mirror, you can change the narrative by changing your own perspective. As you speak life to yourself in that mirror and show yourself and the world you are so much more than what “They” see!

Life is about taking the ordinary and making it extraordinary

“I am aware that I am less than some people prefer me to be, but most people are unaware that I am so much more than what they see.” ― Douglas Pagels

Thank you for joining me for Friday at Sundown. Remember… Just Breathe!

Estelle – “Conqueror”– YouTube

(Disclaimer: We do not own the rights to the music in this video)

About the Writer:

Jacqueline B. Miller “Lady J“ is a creative; energetic multi-facet Woman of God. As an ordained Minister of the Gospel, a Marriage Coach, Life Coach, Writer, Published Author and Virtual talk show host and personality you will find that she has a servant’s heart. Her life’s loves are found within her being a wife, mother, grandmother, sister and friend. Though life has been traumatic at times she has endured and has learned to “Wait” on the Lord, who is her strength and to praise God in the midst of the storms.

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