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Discussion: Life Is On Your Side

January 15, 2021

Life will never ask you for anything you don’t have. Life is not out to get you. Once we stop looking at life as a challenge but an opportunity, I believe we will breathe better. Businesses are referring to setbacks and challenges within their companies as opportunities. We stop looking at ourselves as having problems, but to having situations to resolve. Life is waking up the sleeping giant in us. These transitions are not created. Life has already equipped you to handle these situations.

Food for thought: Michael Ilitch Sr. wanted to be a pro baseball player. He started playing for the minor league in Detroit, MI. Setback: He had a knee injury, bringing to a halt his dream of being a pro player. He took a job in a friend’s pizza restaurant. Comeback: He eventually founded “Little Caesars” which is the 3rd largest pizza chain in the United States. In 2015, his net worth was $5.4 billion. He owned the Detroit Red Wings of the National Hockey League and Detroit Tigers of Major League Baseball. At his death, it recorded his net worth was $6.1 billion. Life had a bigger dream for him. Question: What if he had stopped life because he saw no way to make his dream manifest? Life gave him something much bigger. What is life asking of you?

Too often in our lives when things don’t go the way we plan or dream, we have the propensity to stop. We blame circumstances, people or the economy. Oprah Winfrey speaking at Harvard 2013 Commencement made a profound statement. “There is no such thing as failure. Failure is just life trying to move us in another direction.” Oprah has spoken about how her grandmother wanted to teach her how clothes are to be hung on a clothesline. Training her on how to work as a housemaid in the future. Life had other plans. The Oprah Show, O Magazine, Harpo Films, OWN Network (Oprah Winfrey Network) to name some of her accomplishments. Question: Are you trying to live someone else's dream for you or what they think you can be?

Have you paused recently to determine if the past failure was a new direction for you to take? Or are you continuing to look at your boss, your business partner, your spouse as the cause of why something didn’t happen? For Michael Ilitch Sr., there was a billionaire inside of him that could have died with his dream of a baseball player. What is truly stirring in you? Question “If not now, then when?” What are you waiting for or waiting on? It’s your life and your dream.

My last story is out of Judges Chapter 6 and 7 on Gideon. Because of disobedience, the Midian oppressed the Israelites. Setback: The Israelites were living in mountain clefts, caves and a stronghold. An angel approached Gideon, saying, “The Lord is with you, Mighty Warrior.” Gideon’s responded, my clan is the weakest in Manasseh. And I am the least in my family.” Gideon required signs, God answered his request. Next, Gideon pulled down the Baal’s altar. The people came against Gideon and want to kill him. In the meantime, the Amalekites and other eastern people had joined forces with the Midianites against Israel. At the onset of the battle, Gideon had 32,000 men with him to go into battle. Comeback: God narrowed it down to 300 men and destroyed the enemies of Israel. God placed the enemy into Israel’s hands

The point I want to bring out is Gideon's tribe was the least, his family was the least in the tribe and he was the least in his family. Question: What are you saying about yourself. Are you comparing yourself as you look at others around you? What has God called you to do (and you know it is God)? Everybody can’t go where you are going. Everyone can’t see the vision God has given you. Don’t complain that you can’t get anyone to see your vision (God gave you the vision). As you walk it out, then others can see their role in the vision. Some will start out with you and stop. It’s okay, they have filled their role in the vision. Stop being disappointed when people walk away. Just like Gideon, God only needed a few.

As I do in many discussions, I want to go back to the start of this conversation. Life will never ask you for anything you don’t have. Life is not out to get you. Once we stop looking at life as a challenge, but an opportunity, I believe we will breathe better.

Thank you for joining me for Friday at Sundown. Remember… Just Breathe!

Resources Corner:

Psychological Trauma

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Welcome Home is Celebrate Recovery's (CR) tool to help veterans stuck in hurts, hang-ups, and habits. (These statements are from CR’s Homepage). You are not alone!

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