Discussion: Living our Today for our Tomorrows
Belinda M. Lane
September 30, 2022
People are trying to please people that will not be in their tomorrow, their future. Some who will not care one way or the other, if you do or if you don’t. Walking out your journey and what you do is a matter of what should be in your heart, not the heart of someone else. Now don’t misunderstand me, we need each other. We need the ones who believe in us and support our vision (s). Still, what is needed most is… you!
Often, we realize our life reflects not only outer voices, but the inner voices we listen to. We learned the languages and speak both languages well. We speak them so well that we can no longer distinguish who is actually speaking in our head. Too many of us are people pleasers and wonder why we are so dis-satisfied with our lives. The happiness we feel is short-lived. When we think back on what we felt, did it come from the pat on the back from someone else? When is the last time you patted yourself on the back, or have you ever?
We look at others and think they are so different from who we are and I could never accomplish what they do. Believe it’s not, we are not so different; it is that they made different decisions. When was the last time you faced a dire circumstance or had an unpleasant situation happened to you? How did you respond? Did you see the situation as something to push you farther in life or “why do bad things always happen to me?” Did you see it as creating and expanding you? Are you seeing it as something to tear or beat you down? How did you view what was facing you?
We create our own world with the answers we hold as truth. Often, we attempt to share with others what works best in our world, forgetting they also live in a world they have created. What didn’t work for them may work for you and vice versa. This doesn’t make anyone wrong or right. How do you handle the pain when the one causing the pain and the one running from the pain are both you? Who is really standing in the way of your future? I have asked a lot of questions for you to answer.
Life will give us a lot of detours. We will come to some dead ends, as well as forks in the road. We will make decisions until we die. Fear is not real, it’s a choice.
Change vs. Transformation: Change is a response to external influences, where modifying day-to-day action achieves desired results. Transformation is about modifying core beliefs and long-term behaviors—sometimes in profound ways—to achieve the desired results… per John Palinkas.
Our decisions will bring about change, transformation, or sameness. It will be up to us what we want in life. How will we live today, which will carry over in our tomorrow and our tomorrows? Please take time and answer the question! What is it in life you really want?
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