Discussion: “Run Your Own Race!”
Writer: Jacqueline B. ~Jackie “Lady J” Miller
September 16. 2022
Growing up in a family of 4, mostly with a single mother (because my step-father was in and out) we weren’t rich, not even close. We lived in a 3 bedroom, 1.5-bathroom townhouse in East Baltimore, County. We didn’t have a basement, nor a backyard. However, we had a swimming pool and a tennis court. Don’t get too excited for me. We shared it with every other family in the development we lived in.
Because of the area our development was nestled, in our friends and schoolmates were of different colors, social status and backgrounds. They had what we didn’t have and so much more. So, of course, we wanted some of what they had. Occasionally we felt left out and less than when we couldn’t do or go where they could. The Calvin Klein jeans or Adidas tennis shoes that my mom could not afford for the 4 of us were missed and sought after never the less.
Avoid the Comparison Trap
This is a lesson on getting what you really want out of life. I’m talking about goals, dreams, and the potential to reach your own destinations.
I've been sharing my story of not only becoming a writer but learning a lot of other lessons, like the importance of not comparing myself to others. “Run your own race” has become somewhat of a mantra to me. Because there have been times I’ve had to remind myself of my childhood lessons.
It really is easy to get distracted by the glam and glitz of what social media tries to project as the good life. We see the “best” of folks because they only show you the highlights of their lives. They don’t show the “real” hell they recently had to go through with that drug addicted relative, nor the sacrifices they had to make to afford that trip to Cancun. All we get to see is the walks through the airports, pictures on the beach or in the water, beautiful sunsets and plush hotels. Just like that a few clicks, likes and enjoy yourself. We wanted and wish we were there in their shoes.
I know everyone isn’t this way, but there are a lot of folks that are. It's a sickness I like to call “the fear of missing out!” And so the comparison trap is set, then with little effort, we walk right into it.
In talking to my husband about this, he made a wise revelation for me. He said everyone wants to feel loved, important and a part of something. Most people usually feel pretty good about their lives, goals, dreams, and accomplishments until they see someone else doing better than them.
You don't have to compare yourself to other people, because we are all running different races.
Run Your Own Race
You have your own path in life, don't try to keep up or catch up to others because you want to have their success. Go after your own, my mother used to tell us growing up.
When I hear a friend sharing about their newest book, biggest month ever at work, or the new house they recently purchased, I am happy for them. I know that what’s for me is for me, so I quietly tell myself: “Run your own race.” Staying focused on my goals helps me to keep it all in perspective
When we see someone's highlight reel on Facebook, Twitter or Instagram, we don't have to be mad or assume they're lying. You can just remind yourself that is not your life and you don’t know the cost they are paying for theirs. What someone else is doing has no bearing on what you do. Win, lose or draw, that's their race.
And when you feel the need to worry about not doing enough and really not being enough, quietly say to yourself: This is my race. I will Run it well. Because, really, that's what we all want, isn't it? To do the thing that only we can do and to do it well.
There's really nothing else for you to do. And you won't go any further in life or change anything by trying to be someone else or to be like someone else.
Let me say that again:
You won't go any further or change anything trying to be someone else.
So run your own race.
How do you run your own race?
You start by setting smarter and more realistic goals. Acknowledge where you’re at in your race! How can you run better? Devise a plan, a clear, concise plan, well executed can and will take you higher than you ever imagined you could go. You will see success differently.
Start recognizing your path on your journey and living a full and successful life by celebrating those un-seeming yet defining moments.
Appreciate when someone’s words of wisdom were just the nudge you needed to help you chart your course.
“Run your own race.”
In a world full of perfectly curated lives displayed across various social media platforms. Along with our families, churches and communities, the constant pressure to compare yourself to others can be overwhelming. It’s so easy to get wrapped up in what other people are doing and feel you have to compete.
Whether it’s with jobs, relationships or life, just because someone else is following a particular path doesn’t mean you have to. Neither do or even want to do the same thing as well. You have your own path and your own road to get to where you’re going. Don’t catch up to others because you want to have their success. Travel your own road, let your journey lead you to go after your own. Run your own race.
Years ago, a pastor delivered a sermon and with it, some significant words to live by: desire plus discipline equals development. To this day, I still use these words to encourage me, to push myself further than I ever thought possible. Especially for whatever I want to achieve, from ministry to marriage.
Every time seeds of doubt try to take root in my head and I think I can’t or don’t want to continue pushing myself. These words remind me what I desire, and if I apply the discipline which allows me to reach development. With this mindset, nothing is impossible.
“My mother said, Run your own race. What God has for you is for you!” Like many of us, this is some of the best advice I ever heard. (After all, Momma knows best, right?)
Thank you for joining me for Friday at Sundown. Remember… Just Breathe!
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About the Writer:
Jacqueline B. Miller “Lady J“ is a creative; energetic multi-facet Woman of God. As an ordained Minister of the Gospel, a Marriage Coach, Life Coach, Writer, Published Author and Virtual talk show host and personality you will find that she has a servant’s heart. Her life’s loves are found within her being a wife, mother, grandmother, sister and friend. Though life has been traumatic at times she has endured and has learned to “Wait” on the Lord, who is her strength and to praise God in the midst of the storms.
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...."Don't allow your past to rob you of your future" …I can do all thigs through Christ who strengthens me…Philippians 4:13