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Discussion: You Got This–Fix Your Focus!

Jacqueline B. Miller “Lady J

March 18, 2022

With it being Women’s History Month, I want to remind you that there is nothing you can’t do. YOU GOT THIS even when life’s distractions cause you to lose focus. You are a QUEEN in control of your own destiny.

Life is Full of Distractions

Have you ever noticed that when you have your mind set on doing something intentional, purposeful, essential, productive and needed, that something will get in the way? Things and people will come out of left field and BOOM, you’re DISTRACTED! Living life itself can have your daydreaming at the drop of a dime. Just when you are trying to prepare or accomplish something that’s time sensitive or important, your mind will wander. Thinking of something that has nothing to do with whatever you need to be focused on.

We are FOCUSING on sickness, depression, separation, divorce, misbehaving children, finances or (the lack thereof) and even death. All leaving us feeling weak, broken, burdened with worry, confusion, fear, grief, and hopelessness; lost, with no direction.

Soon as we try to make heads or tails of life and as we steady ourselves, we see the world from the physical eye and it’s in; we see a sad state! We realize we are stuck. Simply stuck!!!

You know how it happens; yup, starts out small, because you have learned how to practice the art of bob and weave. The children are squabbling over the remote. Then the grumblings from your spouse about his honey do list. Or that co-worker with complaints of how she has to-much to do. Instead of being grateful to have a job amid a crisis like a pandemic, a war, rising gas prices and not to mention the inflated prices of food.

And before you know it, here comes the blind- sided hits. Out of nowhere, the car gets a flat tire. The washing machine chooses this time to stop spinning when you have 4 loads of laundry to do. Then the phone rings, beeps or vibrates, (in your mind you’re saying don’t answer it. But before your thoughts can catch up to that muscle memory, your hands have picked up the phone. “Hey Gurl… What’s up???”) SURE enough, someone on the other end has an issue that has nothing to do with you… ALL DISTRACTIONS!!

Anybody guilty of social media DISTRACTIONS? You know that something will pop up on your timeline that will take you down a rabbit hole. From the funniest pictures to a pop-up ad showing you how to lose weight, or a cute pair of shoes that you think you must have. And in your creative mind, you search your closet for a jacket, belt, hat or purse that will compliment those shoes and will justify your purchase, DISTRACTION!

I dare not LEAVE out the biggest stealer of our focus Our ARCH ENEMY or some folks say best friend- MR. or MRS. Worry!

You start that “STINKIN -Thinking” as I like to call it, thinking about everything that you have no control over, but call it whatever you like! In reality, it’s WORRY! We ALL worry!

Whether it’s our families, spouses, the children and school, finances, jobs, or paying bills. Our health and everyone else’s, who’s talking about who, folks mistreating each other. The government and its leaders and the outside world we ALL simply have so much that we WORRY about.


Author; Corri Ten Boom said, Worry does not empty tomorrow of its sorrow, it empties today of its STRENGTH. – “Worrying does not take away tomorrow's troubles. It takes away today's peace.”

The time that you spent DISTRACTED and un-focused. Do you know what and how much you missed out on or could have accomplished? That assignment the Lord gave you months ago. Losing some weight, getting out of that toxic relationship. going back to school, buying a house, starting a business, growing that ministry, or simply enjoying life.

Daily life is full of DISTRACTIONS and it may seem like we have no control. But can I tell you, we ARE the controller of some things? It’s up to us WHAT and WHO we allow to distract us. We have the POWER! YES, You and You alone have the POWER TO FIX YOUR FOCUS.

Jekalyn Carr reminds us that GOD IS


STOP allowing people, places and things to take away and distract you from your future and destiny!

You are a Woman of Worth! A strong QUEEN, so focus on the QUEEN within. Sister, today I pray to encourage you to “Fix Your Focus”. If you can accomplish this, there is nothing you can’t do.

YOU GOT This! You HAVE TO just do it! Make the Choice to focus on Your Destiny and take control of your life.



Thank you for joining me for Friday at Sundown. Remember… Just Breathe!

You Got This book: Author Jackie Miller – Source

You Got This – YouTube

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About the Writer:

Jacqueline B. Miller “Lady J“ is a creative; energetic multi-facet Woman of God. As an ordained Minister of the Gospel, a Marriage Coach, Life Coach, Writer, Published Author and Virtual talk show host and personality you will find that she has a servant’s heart. Her life’s loves are found within her being a wife, mother, grandmother, sister and friend. Though life has been traumatic at times she has endured and has learned to “Wait” on the Lord, who is her strength and to praise God in the midst of the storms.

CONTACT: Jacqueline B. ~Jackie “Lady J” Miller

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